Older Women Dating Younger Men – “The Cougar Kind of Dating”

34It’s the dream of every man at some point in their lives to take up the challenge of dating someone much older than them. There’s that uncontrollable urge to try it out regardless, of whether it works out well or not. And this cannot be rated as abnormal especially if one feels up to it and loves the person despite the age gap between them. We most often see older women dating younger men as an act that society frowns upon and to a large extent refer to these older women as ‘COUGARS’,which denotes older women laying in wait to prey on much younger men. But with the recent upsurge of globalization, this act has as a matter of fact, received an appreciable level of tolerance.

Dating older women can come along with its added pros and cons, which can make the relationship work out just fine or end eventually. The reasons for dating older women may vary from one guy to the next; but in all this, the success of this relationship may be dependent on what one really wants. For instance, one may realize that older women have a more positive outlook and mindset when it comes to handling relationships. They have been there, done that and seen that! They know what they want and go all out for it. This is due to the fact that they’ve been through millions of relationships and have gained the requisite experience needed in handling future relationships. They are the kind of women who just want to have fun,enjoy life one step at a time and take it easy; so most often would go in for the ‘NO STRINGS ATTACHED’ kind of relationship. Now, most guys will love this since it’s a bit rather too hard for some of them to commit or be involved in something so serious leading to a life time commitment – marriage! It scares the hell out of them. Dating older women could also bring one some sort of stability when it comes to their finances. These women have lived most of their lives working hard and acquiring so much wealth over the years that, they wouldn’t mind sharing with their new found young love something every guy will love to have (Financial Stability).

Older women also tend to have a greater sense of confidence in relationships and are not afraid to let it show. They know what they want and go all out for it. Women who’ve got it all under control. But, with all these advantages stated, one is bound to come across some disadvantages too when it comes to choosing the path of dating older women. First of all, older women cannot and will not offer you the kind of long, lasting relationship you are searching for if you are that serious and stable kind of guy. You may wish to have a future with them and start a family, but trust me; they aren’t in a hurry to do that. They do not want any commitments or strings attached to any relationship because they’ve been through all of that before and it just didn’t really work out well for them. Don’t take it bad though, their just being cautious. Would want So If you are someone who’s now beginning life, getting ahead in your career and all of that, dating an older woman may so not be a good idea. There can be no commitments or seriousness attached to the relationship whereas you are looking for that platform to build and have a family of your own which may not be included in her plans.

Also, older women tend to go through a lot and end up carrying lots of baggage into their new relationships. The pressures associated with the ex- husband/ boyfriends, children( if they have any), divorce proceedings and dealing with it emotionally and psychologically, and a whole lot more can weigh down on your relationship and cause a hitch to take effect, which can lead to an eventual collapse of the relationship. Not sure any guy would want to put up with this. Furthermore, the stigma in society associated with dating older women could eventually break you down and leave you filled with regrets of engaging in the act. The society in which you find yourself may frown upon older women dating younger men; young enough to be their children and might end up giving you that ‘eerie look’, which can be quite uncomfortable. No one will like to be in a relationship which is opened or subjected to constant scrutiny and public viewing.

Moreover, older women have the tendency of being possessive and overly protective when it comes to their kind of relationship. They always want to be in control when it comes to decision making as well as other important aspects revolving around their relationships. Which guy would ever want to date a control freak? Guys want to have an upper hand when it comes to handling and dealing with their relationships and as such would probably never settle for women like this. In a nutshell, I will say that relationships can be fun and interesting regardless of the ages involved. It doesn’t necessarily have to be dependent on the age gap or difference. If you are the kind of guy who fancies dating older women, my advice to you will be, to go all out for it and make it WORK!!!

After 40 Singles Coaching Ladies, Learn How to Talk to Men in Forties and Fifties at a Coffee Shop

deMost single women over 40 years old find it challenging to meet quality men in their forties and fifties. Midlife women are so busy with their own careers and kids that it can feel daunting to try to meet eligible bachelors their own age.

One of the best ways to get back into dating at any age is to practice breaking the ice and talking with people wherever you go during your day and while running your errands.

It can feel nerve-racking to try to have a conversation with a complete stranger. But don’t you find yourself standing next to strangers at the coffee bar asking them to pass you a coffee stirring device? That is an ice breaker! When you head out to start your work day or your weekend, go visit your favorite coffee shop. While you are in line either waiting to place your order or to receive your beverage, just calmly ask the other people milling about a question or two. “Have you ever tried their cappuccino? I keep meaning to do so.” “What is your favorite pastry? They all look so good. I have a hard time choosing which one to buy today.”

When you reach the front of the ordering line, be friendly with the cashier. So often the employees running the cash register are doing the same tasks all day long. It can be mind numbing and boring work to perform for 8 hours.

Be warm and gracious with these people, and the other people standing in line notice that you are a friendly, thoughtful, and considerate person. That kind of sweet well-mannered behavior appeals both to midlife ladies and mature gentleman. Singles who really want a relationship want to be with a person who has some skills and is personable. You can be good looking and take care of your physical appearance, but if you have no people skills and inner qualities, the quality single will look elsewhere.

When you hear your beverage called out as ready by the coffee barista, step up to receive it and as you do so, look up, make eye contact with the employee, and smile and thank them. Everyone who is relationship-motivated appreciates and desires a mate with good manners, poise and polish. Men really enjoy being verbally appreciated by women. When a middle aged guy sees you’re a woman who can enjoy and appreciate the little things in life, then he starts to think that maybe you’re a woman he could manage to please. No one wants to be with a mate who is impossible to please.

By heading out to a coffee shop today, you can start to practice your singles social ice breaking conversation skills. Once you break the ice, it’s an easy segue to a first date!

What Men Think About Relationships and Aging Women

loThe truth is, this is a complete matter of personal preference between two people. And no body really has the right to tell you that it is right or wrong. What can they do about true love? In today’s world there are many reasons that people choose to seek an older or younger partner for their relationships depending on preference.

These people are sometimes the happiest and in some cases have the best relationships. This is due to the fact that they are not superficial and all concerned about good looks, or age.

But there are some people who are concerned about something else.

Some people are concerned with more material concerns like whether the older person has a lot of money that they can give away. Have you heard about the story of ‘gold digger’ women marrying a dying rich men for his money. Or how about the stories about women hiring a killer to murder her husband for the insurance money? All of this is not for love at all. It’s for money. And it really is a trivial thing. There are so many opportunities for us to make money in the world and they can’t see it. Worst of all they will never find love, or personal compatibility or good character traits in other people. They are not worried because they don’t care. Some just want the money. What can I say? It is dependent on the individual person and their life.

Every person is different. It’s a good idea to date people of different ages before you judge others and to determine what is best for you. There are just so many opportunities out there, and so many men and women looking for their match, if you are new to the dating scene, it is especially important to determine what works well for you. Your love is at stake here and it is important to determine before you try to get involved in a serious relationship. It is the first step in setting up yourself for success and getting a date and it could possibility be the beginning of something more. If you don’t do any of this, you are setting yourself up for failure and misery.

When you do decide what is right for you, before you are about to go on your first date, you should check whether your partner is into you for the right reasons. Age difference in a relationship means other differences too. There are factors like maturity level, personality, past history, and work experience that you need to know because they will impact the overall health of the potential relationship. What if he’s a creep? What if he’s been divorced seventeen times? These are issues you need to know to protect yourself from any potential dangers that could arise.

If you and your guy are compatible on the more basic levels and you know it is safe, then you can choose to spend more time getting to know one another. The date has a good chance of going well. On the other hand, if you pick a dangerous felon that’s about to commit another crime, you better scream out loud, and head for the hills. Being with a creep is always something that you will simply never enjoy. Doing your home work on a guy helps your chances of success and diminishes any probability you fall victim. You owe it to yourself to give yourself best shot for love and happiness.