Most single women over 40 years old find it challenging to meet quality men in their forties and fifties. Midlife women are so busy with their own careers and kids that it can feel daunting to try to meet eligible bachelors their own age.
One of the best ways to get back into dating at any age is to practice breaking the ice and talking with people wherever you go during your day and while running your errands.
It can feel nerve-racking to try to have a conversation with a complete stranger. But don’t you find yourself standing next to strangers at the coffee bar asking them to pass you a coffee stirring device? That is an ice breaker! When you head out to start your work day or your weekend, go visit your favorite coffee shop. While you are in line either waiting to place your order or to receive your beverage, just calmly ask the other people milling about a question or two. “Have you ever tried their cappuccino? I keep meaning to do so.” “What is your favorite pastry? They all look so good. I have a hard time choosing which one to buy today.”
When you reach the front of the ordering line, be friendly with the cashier. So often the employees running the cash register are doing the same tasks all day long. It can be mind numbing and boring work to perform for 8 hours.
Be warm and gracious with these people, and the other people standing in line notice that you are a friendly, thoughtful, and considerate person. That kind of sweet well-mannered behavior appeals both to midlife ladies and mature gentleman. Singles who really want a relationship want to be with a person who has some skills and is personable. You can be good looking and take care of your physical appearance, but if you have no people skills and inner qualities, the quality single will look elsewhere.
When you hear your beverage called out as ready by the coffee barista, step up to receive it and as you do so, look up, make eye contact with the employee, and smile and thank them. Everyone who is relationship-motivated appreciates and desires a mate with good manners, poise and polish. Men really enjoy being verbally appreciated by women. When a middle aged guy sees you’re a woman who can enjoy and appreciate the little things in life, then he starts to think that maybe you’re a woman he could manage to please. No one wants to be with a mate who is impossible to please.
By heading out to a coffee shop today, you can start to practice your singles social ice breaking conversation skills. Once you break the ice, it’s an easy segue to a first date!