Top 7 First Date Ideas For Single Seniors

fThe “first date” is the stepping stone to every relationship. As couples, young and old, gear up for this day they earnestly wish not to mess up. Single seniors believe it is harder for them because age brings in multiple restrictions. They search for ideas that are fun and enjoyable yet age appropriate.

If you are a single senior with a first date scheduled in the coming week, remember age is merely a number. First date ideas for single seniors can be as exciting as picking up your girlfriend in your dad’s car, driving her to the movies and wrapping up the evening with a sumptuous meal. You can plan similar events; only tweak it to suit both your interests.

So, it’s time to be young again. Here are 7 ideas to enjoy your first date and wow your partner.

1. Dinner and movie:

This is a classic first date idea for seniors. Young couples too choose “dinner and movie” when they are unsure of what would be the best. The two of you can come to know each other better over a meal. If you want to slow it down a bit, make it two cups of coffee and a piece of cake at an old fashioned bakery. Dinner can be followed by a movie at the theater. Choose a movie in common agreement.

Instead of going out, you can cook a meal for your date and watch a movie at home. It adds a personal touch to the event. Also, the familiar surroundings make you comfortable.

2. A Nature Tour:

If you are a nature admirer, nothing beats a nature trail as a top idea for a first date for single seniors. This could be a short walk on a quaint street, a serene beach or through vistas of fruit-bearing trees. You can go for a romantic boat ride or a short nature hike (if it is not too demanding).

3. Go to the Games:

Men especially are passionate sports fans. It’s soccer, baseball or ice hockey. If your date is a sports fan, you can make the event memorable by inviting him or her to a game.

4. Picnic in the Park:

You can plan a romantic picnic at the park or beside a lake or pond. Pack a picnic basket including sandwiches, crisps and drinks. You should monitor the weather. Rain can ruin the best planned picnics.

5. A Cultural Sojourn:

If you or your date is a connoisseur of art, you can visit an art gallery or tour a museum. This is not a typical date idea. Therefore, take your partner’s opinion before you go ahead and plan the event. If you’re young at heart and dying to unleash the child in you, attend a street fair or carnival. It’s a great way to be yourself on your first date.

6. Winery Tour:

A tour to a local winery is an ideal first date idea for single seniors. Wineries attract a lot of adult crowd and hence, you and your date won’t feel out of place.

7. Musical Concert or a Stage Play:

You can also invite your first date to a musical concert or a stage-play. Again, find out what they would like so you can choose something that you will both enjoy together. Or alternatively, you could always plan a surprise! Look for good reviews and maybe gain the opinion of some of your musical or play loving friends.

How Online Dating Can Help You Find Love Again

32For men and women over 50 who find themselves single, dating can be a little bit daunting to say the least. Some may have lost a partner or finished a long term relationship but feel the time is right to look for friendship and love again and maybe desire a longer term relationship should they find the right person.

Match made in heaven

Online dating is not a new phenomenon; in fact a growing number of older people are finding their partners this way. It is often seen as a practical option to meet that someone special as you’re able to match your interests.

Modern dating websites make it simple for mature singles to narrow down their searches by location, by interest, by education; there are numerous choices. They’re able to achieve all of this from the comfort of their own home, send emails and take their time to find the person that’s right for them – whether they’re looking for fun friendship or romance.

Making new friends

Online dating for the mature market is becoming increasingly popular because for some it can be more difficult to get out and meet new people, especially when their previous life revolved around their partner and possibly children. Whilst we maintain some relationships with friends, these can often be fewer than in our younger days. And the friends we have may not be single and have family commitments so may not be available to go out as much.

With online dating for the over 50s, you know immediately who is single and looking for a relationship; no need to ask that awkward question at the bar or find you’ve spent half an hour talking to someone you like but they’re already attached.

Past baggage

It can be somewhat difficult as well due to acrimonious divorces on the one hand and as a widow(er) who feels so vulnerable and alone looking for a replacement, really wanting their partner back which is traumatic and impossible. The timing is therefore very important and it’s crucial not to jump into the dating game too early. The moment has to be right for the individual concerned but when the time comes, online dating can be used to find others that have been through a similar situation. At least there is a common understanding although a new love should be seen in their own right out of respect for every individual.

Embrace being over 50s

In short, dating should be fun. Being over 50 is to be enjoyed; it’s a chance to meet new friends, explore and share new passions. It’s an age in which can be filled with very enriching, rewarding experiences that you might not have had time for when you were younger due to work, home and personal commitments. Online dating helps to open a broad and wide social net giving the over 50s more opportunity than ever before to find their perfect mate.

My advice to you; make the most of getting back into the dating scene again. Take a relaxed view on the whole process, be patient but most of all be confident. If you have a thirst for life then others will want to be around you, will warm to you – and you to them. By being open minded and taking a genuine interest in others you could find yourself well on the way to living a life that you truly deserve with that special someone.

Are Mature People Better at Online Dating

3gLast year, it was announced that online dating for mature people over 50 and above had risen an astonishing 40%. In fact, over 50’s dating is the fastest growing group of internet dating site users according to industry research.

This has resulted in an incredible rise in websites catering solely for the over 50 demographic offering their services to the mature dater. Sites vary from directly calling themselves ‘Over50 dating’ to a more refined and romantic ‘Find Love Again’ marketing approach. What is evident is the sheer volume of these sites for 50 plus people looking for a match made in heaven.

But why is 50+ dating so popular?

One reason is the increased number of internet users over fifty. ‘Silver surfers’ is the most common term to describe this group who have become more accustomed to the use of information technology. It has even been said that in some case they even spend more time on their computers than the 18-24 demographic. This growing trend has led to a higher use of websites for online shopping, internet banking and social networking – where people over 50 can stay in constant contact with family members or people that live far away.

Indeed, increased use of the internet has opened up avenues of communication never before available for senior people. Consequently, this use has led to a higher level of independence and self-esteem.

A separate study analysing brain functions of senior citizens using the web, has found that computer usage has increased nerve function for this older group.

Further new research, based on a survey of almost 8000 mature men and women over fifty shows that regular users of social networking sites are almost a third less likely to be diagnosed with depression compared with non-users. Apparently online communication can make you happier.

Is this the main reason?

Or is it possible that online dating could be popular for another reason, perhaps? Maybe it’s all down to intelligence?

Raymond Cattell, the eminent psychologist, states that there are two types of intelligence: fluid and crystallised. Fluid intelligence is the ability to apply logic to problem solving, crystallised intelligence relates to knowledge gained by experience. Evidence has shown that crystallised intelligence gets better with age, and knowledge gained in the later years of a person’s life is better. Wisdom is accumulated easier, as well as verbal skills and negotiating skills.

Does this help to explain the rise of online dating for those over fifty? Are they just better at it than younger people due to their increased wisdom and people skills? Do they know how to handle the challenges of finding a potential partner better than younger people? Are they savvier when it comes to online romance? Do they know the score?

What do you think?

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Dating Tips For Middle Aged People

dcIf you are recently divorced or widowed, and are an aging boomer who hasn’t dated in years; if you can barely remember what dating was like except a fuzzy memory of being young, happy and free, then you may be wondering how dating at middle age is different. This article talks a little about dating for middle aged people.

I am almost 50 and was recently thrown back into the middle aged dating pool when my husband came out of the closet. While I was married I often missed dating since marriage usually seemed so predictable and boring. The idea of being chased by a new man and discovering everything about him seemed so much more exciting then yet another date night where my husband and I ran out of things to talk about since we had heard every story we ever had after 20 years.

I was unpleasantly surprised to find that there were a lot of bad things about dating that I had forgotten about when I started dating again:

1. Being judged on your looks
I was used to being judged at the store by what was in my wallet or at work by what was in my brain, but is had been WAY too long since I was judged on my looks. And those looks were not so great as 20 years ago!

2. Liking someone more than they like you
This is VERY painful and if you haven’t experienced it in many years and are still reeling with grief from a death or divorce it can cut like a knife.

3. No regular intimacy
Let’s face it, when you are married you get regular physical intimacy pretty much on demand, even if it is not that great it is still something.

4. Loneliness
You have to hope you get a date and if not you are faced with finding someone friend to do stuff with on the weekend or weeknight. I have found meetup.com to be a great resource for me as well as a way to meet other middle aged singles who are in the same boat.

5. Courtship rules
It is best to go slow, even though you may want to go right back to where you were in your marriage while it was good. This means letting information about yourself out slowly and slowing down the dating process so you are not like a kid eating too much candy all at once and getting sick. If you are used to sharing everything with your spouse, this may feel strange. Also letting the guy pay may be weird. I found myself automatically grabbing for the check at the restaurant since I was the bookkeeper in my family. If you are a feminist and used to bossing men around at work, passively waiting to be asked out on a date may feel awful.

So what is new for us at middle aged that we have not forgotten about:

1. Online dating
There is a whole new world out there and it is like Facebook for daters. I thought as soon as I posted my profile I would be flooded with date offers. While that may be true for some, the offers are not always what you want. You have to have a lot of patience for the right date offer to come along.

2. Functionality issues
Let’s face it, everything does not work as well as it used to for men. This may be especially embarrassing on a date and will keep men from feeling comfortable going on a date. Men often think that dating way below their age will solve the problem, but this idea has it’s own set of problems such as commonality and whether to start another family.

3. Bad man to woman ratio
Men start to die off in middle aged, sadly, and this leaves way more women than men in the singles pool. By age 60 some estimates show there is 1 single man for every 2 women.

How To Help Mom Or Dad Start Dating Again

kmAs a child, it is often difficult to get over the loss of a parent or accept separation caused by divorce. You are emotionally charged; there are feelings of sorrow mingled with guilt. And, during this time, when you see your dad dressing up for a date or your mom chatting up with a male colleague, you feel disgusted. There is only one question in your mind – How can he/she do this?

Your feelings and questions are completely justified. However, if you think logically, if you look at it from their perspective, there isn’t anything wrong in your parent seeking companionship again. It is likely that he or she feels lonely. A person who has lived his or her life alone is not disturbed by solitude, but one who has known companionship finds it hard to imagine life without a friend or spouse. Ask yourself would you like to spend the rest of your life alone?

Instead of critiquing their decision, you, as a daughter or son – their own and who understands them best – should support and help them get back into the dating pool and make their lives worth living. Not only this, if you find that loneliness is consuming your parent’s life, you can step forward and motivate them to get more social.

So, just how can you do this? We’ll hold your hand and show you how.

Breaking the News

If you look up the web, there are many middle-aged parents, widowed and divorced looking for advice on the best ways to tell their children about a new relationship. This is because the chances of rejection are higher than acceptance in real life situations.

When your parent breaks the news to you, accept it calmly. Because remember, this new companion is not only to take to dinner dates or family functions but to fulfill a deeper need, to share joys and sorrows while you and your siblings are busy with your lives.

One main reason why children often find it difficult to accept a new member in their life is because they think this member will automatically replace the lost parent. It is not so. Your mom or dad will continue to hold the same position in your life and such a positive mindset will help you accept your parent’s decision to date again easily. This is how you cross the first hurdle.

Avoid Being Over Protective

It is natural to be overprotective of a newly widowed parent. You don’t want their heart to be broken a second time or you don’t want someone dating them for ulterior motives. Many elders choose online dating after a divorce or loss of a spouse, which is becoming ever more popular as a way to find someone new. You can advise and help them by being part of the process and being there for them. Be open and be prepared to address and discuss issues in a healthier way.

Get Social Yourself

Do not compare your parent’s new interest to your other parent. Do not assume in advance that you will not gel well with this new member. Speak to them like you would to any other adult you come across. Your parent will feel happy seeing you interact with their new companion.

Take the Initiative

Each one of us handles grief differently. You may have worked through your emotions, but your parent might still be struggling to come to terms with a loss or separation. After your mom or dad has settled down, you can approach them and ask if they would like to date again. If they agree, you can help them develop social relations. If they are not favor if it, don’t force your opinion on them.

So, give your mom or dad a chance. Support them for their want of love in their life. After all, you cannot cling on to the past; you have to move forward. And, you, with your love, support and care can make this transition an easier one for them.

 

Setting Dating Goals

fWe all have set New Year’s resolutions – weight loss, save money, be organized – but do you set relationship resolutions?

Think about it, have you been dating the same type of personality over and over with the same outcome? You end up alone. Maybe it’s time to reflect on what type of person you should be dating. You could start with a pros and cons list. What attributes or personality traits are non-negotiable? Humor, sarcasm, easy-going, spontaneous, energetic… Which traits are you thinking you should stay away from? Needy, vanity, a spender, a drinker…

Okay, once you have your list, it’s time to reflect, really make sure you’ve been honest with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, it may take a few tries to get your list realistic. Remember, you’re finally being honest with yourself.

I know, the bad boy is exciting – dangerous, unpredictable, exciting – but he also cheats and treats you like crap. I know, I know, the good guy is dull, predicable, and routine. There is a happy medium, you just have to look.

If you’re straying away from your usual type to find a guy that not only lights your fire but treats you well, don’t be surprised if it takes a few tries. We tend to fall back into old habits because its comfortable. You’ll need to practice.

Be patient with yourself and keep your list handy. Guard your heart, it isn’t as picky as your head. It’s easy to fall in love if you don’t think about it, but remember, you’re planning for a successful future. It’s okay to fail along the way, but keep reaching for the stars. He’s out there.

You Need To Know What You Want First

dsWhen it comes to online dating, you must first ask yourself what you are looking for. Are you looking for someone to be your friend in hopes that something more develops. Are you into just a hook-up? Are you looking for your soul mate but realize that you’ll have to go through a number of people to find that match?

Some folks are shallow minded, they want someone with certain looks, height, physical attributes, and hair and eye color, someone nice to look at. Okay, but those are not what make a soul mate, you’ll need more than that. I was considering this issue as I over head a conversation where one gal was talking about her height with her taller friend, they both didn’t want a man shorter than them, because that might not look right. I was thinking that I am 5’10” so about 6-foot with my New Balance sneakers on. I can remember I used to like petite Blonde’s as a younger man, but in listening to their conversation, I thought to myself; I always wondered if shorter women were upset looking up the nostrils of their taller boyfriends or husbands?

So, maybe height does matter very much, but there are other important things to be cognizant of. Here is a potential list of deal breakers:

1. No Drama
2. No STDs
3. No Man-Haters
4. No Air Heads
5. No Lawyers
6. No Gold Diggers
7. No Drug Addicts
8. No Alcohol Abusers
10. No Negative Women

Perhaps, the rest of all the qualities “depend” on the individual you see? Good people are worthy of cutting slack, each individual is an assortment of their observations, experiences, education, genetics, and 5-closest friends. I guess that list and those items are probably common.

If you are jumping back into the dating scene and the whole idea of dating again sounds stressful because maybe it has been a long time and you are not even sure you want to go there, realize you really I don’t have a choice.

You are not alone in being leery about Online Dating, or uncertain about getting back out there again. Being single is a double-edged sword, total freedom, but at times you can tell something is missing. If all that sounds familiar, start making your list, you don’t have to publish it in an online dating profile, but keep it handy, too many red flags and you need to bug out, and think. Please consider all this.

How To Find A Partner After The Age Of 50

meWhen you first started out, you did not expect to see yourself on the dating scene at the age of 50. However, life can be trying at times. Death and divorce put a sudden end to relationships you believed would last for life. A few of you might have also stayed away from getting romantically involved during your younger days for personal reasons. However now, as old age creeps, there is a strong urge inside to search for a new long-term relationship; to look for a friend or companion you can share your joys with and lean on for support in times of trouble.

Dating again after the age of 50 is intimidating, but not as complicated as it sounds. Whatever your goal of finding a partner, with a little effort you make this dream come true.

Coping with Family Reaction

Family reaction is an important dating concern for seniors. It makes many go back and forth on their decision. Although children are immersed in their own lives, the thought of a parent seeking companionship again might affect them; a few accept it openly. Irrespective of the personality and attitude of your child, the best thing to do is communicate your decision in advance. When you do find a partner, introduce the two to each other and promote interaction. This step will not only prevent disappointment, but also make it easier for you to get back into the dating pool.

Meeting People

After you’ve crossed the first hurdle of making your family and relatives understand your need for a companion, it’s time to move out of your comfort zone and mingle. There are varied places to meet new people. Family and friends are an excellent place to start. They know you and your personality traits best and hence might be able to introduce you to likeminded individuals; those you could consider a prospective partner. Attend social gatherings, family get-togethers and weddings.

Another option is senior dating sites. These sites provide the platform on which interested seniors can connect. They are designed for single seniors, widows and widowers and divorcees. Unlike a few decades ago, the number of senior dating sites has grown considerably as its become a great opportunity to meet likeminded others. User activity is often monitored on such sites hence, it is a safe way to connect with compatible mates. However, as always you should exhibit caution in the same way you would do in meeting anyone you don’t know for the first time.

There are offline dating services too. Their structure is similar to conventional marriage bureaus. Here matchmakers choose appropriate people for you to meet. They organize social events periodically to promote interaction between members. Such organizations charge a minimal fee for their services. You can also find a suitable partner by way of your interests and hobbies. You can meet people at a church, at a golf club or political organization.

Think About the Type of Partner You Want

This involves a little introspection; asking and answering a few vital questions. The first is the reason why you want to start dating again and what you expect from a potential relationship. It also involves considering the qualities you would like to see in your partner. As one gets older you have a better perspective of life and know what matters the most. You should not expect to find a duplicate of a past relationship.

Finding a compatible partner takes time and requires patience. Be yourself and be positive. Don’t rush with your relationship. Let it unfold gradually.

How To Make A Man Fall In Love Even With Age Differences

3tIf you ever meet a man and spent a lot of time writing flirty, humorous and lighthearted text messages or emails back and forth, you need to read this to see if he’s truly interested in you or just playing with your heart.

You can have the most amazing conversations and get along extremely well, but if your man isn’t truly in to you, he will leave you hanging.

A lot of women make the mistake of thinking about him too much and what a great catch he is. But do you also find yourself wondering how he really feels about you?

A few weeks or months can go by and he could be hinting at something more if you’re paying attention. Sometimes a man can suddenly be silent and cold. He could stop asking you out on dates, he could stop calling you to confess any secrets, he talks about other women around you, and you’re none the wiser about his feelings. You might start to wonder if you’ve been conveniently slotted into the friend zone.

At this point, you need to do something really fast. Most men need to be physically in close proximity with a woman to stay interested. If you happen to move away or live too far away, that can also affect how much attention you’re going to get. You can’t wait. So first, let’s look at the particular sign you should watch for if a man is interested in you. Men, like you, are looking for signs of obvious interested in a exclusive relationship. A man doesn’t want to risk rejection. In fact, he’s really scared of it. If he thinks you’re not clearly into him, he may put off flirting with you forever. If he doesn’t feel you’re interested in him, he will stop trying. Some men, with shorter attention spans, may move on within an hour of initiating a dialogue if he doesn’t feel a positive response from you, so that’s why you need to act fast.

The best thing you can do is to ask your man what his first impression of you is. It’s simple. If his initial impression of you is a positive one, his brain will seek out bits of information that supports his initial claim. Remember the saying, love at first sight? First impressions mean a lot.

Now let’s be honest here. Dating guys is extremely time consuming and troublesome. If you tallied up the total hours it would take to get to know someone, spend time together and growing a relationship, you might not want to do it. You have to care about a guy on his good and bad days. You have to take precious time out of your already busy schedule to invest in a relationship that may or may not go anywhere. If you’ve worked with him for five months, and you ind you don’t even like the guy, you just wasted five months of time that you can never get back. So make sure he is the one before you invest.

Older Women Dating Younger Men – “The Cougar Kind of Dating”

34It’s the dream of every man at some point in their lives to take up the challenge of dating someone much older than them. There’s that uncontrollable urge to try it out regardless, of whether it works out well or not. And this cannot be rated as abnormal especially if one feels up to it and loves the person despite the age gap between them. We most often see older women dating younger men as an act that society frowns upon and to a large extent refer to these older women as ‘COUGARS’,which denotes older women laying in wait to prey on much younger men. But with the recent upsurge of globalization, this act has as a matter of fact, received an appreciable level of tolerance.

Dating older women can come along with its added pros and cons, which can make the relationship work out just fine or end eventually. The reasons for dating older women may vary from one guy to the next; but in all this, the success of this relationship may be dependent on what one really wants. For instance, one may realize that older women have a more positive outlook and mindset when it comes to handling relationships. They have been there, done that and seen that! They know what they want and go all out for it. This is due to the fact that they’ve been through millions of relationships and have gained the requisite experience needed in handling future relationships. They are the kind of women who just want to have fun,enjoy life one step at a time and take it easy; so most often would go in for the ‘NO STRINGS ATTACHED’ kind of relationship. Now, most guys will love this since it’s a bit rather too hard for some of them to commit or be involved in something so serious leading to a life time commitment – marriage! It scares the hell out of them. Dating older women could also bring one some sort of stability when it comes to their finances. These women have lived most of their lives working hard and acquiring so much wealth over the years that, they wouldn’t mind sharing with their new found young love something every guy will love to have (Financial Stability).

Older women also tend to have a greater sense of confidence in relationships and are not afraid to let it show. They know what they want and go all out for it. Women who’ve got it all under control. But, with all these advantages stated, one is bound to come across some disadvantages too when it comes to choosing the path of dating older women. First of all, older women cannot and will not offer you the kind of long, lasting relationship you are searching for if you are that serious and stable kind of guy. You may wish to have a future with them and start a family, but trust me; they aren’t in a hurry to do that. They do not want any commitments or strings attached to any relationship because they’ve been through all of that before and it just didn’t really work out well for them. Don’t take it bad though, their just being cautious. Would want So If you are someone who’s now beginning life, getting ahead in your career and all of that, dating an older woman may so not be a good idea. There can be no commitments or seriousness attached to the relationship whereas you are looking for that platform to build and have a family of your own which may not be included in her plans.

Also, older women tend to go through a lot and end up carrying lots of baggage into their new relationships. The pressures associated with the ex- husband/ boyfriends, children( if they have any), divorce proceedings and dealing with it emotionally and psychologically, and a whole lot more can weigh down on your relationship and cause a hitch to take effect, which can lead to an eventual collapse of the relationship. Not sure any guy would want to put up with this. Furthermore, the stigma in society associated with dating older women could eventually break you down and leave you filled with regrets of engaging in the act. The society in which you find yourself may frown upon older women dating younger men; young enough to be their children and might end up giving you that ‘eerie look’, which can be quite uncomfortable. No one will like to be in a relationship which is opened or subjected to constant scrutiny and public viewing.

Moreover, older women have the tendency of being possessive and overly protective when it comes to their kind of relationship. They always want to be in control when it comes to decision making as well as other important aspects revolving around their relationships. Which guy would ever want to date a control freak? Guys want to have an upper hand when it comes to handling and dealing with their relationships and as such would probably never settle for women like this. In a nutshell, I will say that relationships can be fun and interesting regardless of the ages involved. It doesn’t necessarily have to be dependent on the age gap or difference. If you are the kind of guy who fancies dating older women, my advice to you will be, to go all out for it and make it WORK!!!