You Need To Know What You Want First

dsWhen it comes to online dating, you must first ask yourself what you are looking for. Are you looking for someone to be your friend in hopes that something more develops. Are you into just a hook-up? Are you looking for your soul mate but realize that you’ll have to go through a number of people to find that match?

Some folks are shallow minded, they want someone with certain looks, height, physical attributes, and hair and eye color, someone nice to look at. Okay, but those are not what make a soul mate, you’ll need more than that. I was considering this issue as I over head a conversation where one gal was talking about her height with her taller friend, they both didn’t want a man shorter than them, because that might not look right. I was thinking that I am 5’10” so about 6-foot with my New Balance sneakers on. I can remember I used to like petite Blonde’s as a younger man, but in listening to their conversation, I thought to myself; I always wondered if shorter women were upset looking up the nostrils of their taller boyfriends or husbands?

So, maybe height does matter very much, but there are other important things to be cognizant of. Here is a potential list of deal breakers:

1. No Drama
2. No STDs
3. No Man-Haters
4. No Air Heads
5. No Lawyers
6. No Gold Diggers
7. No Drug Addicts
8. No Alcohol Abusers
10. No Negative Women

Perhaps, the rest of all the qualities “depend” on the individual you see? Good people are worthy of cutting slack, each individual is an assortment of their observations, experiences, education, genetics, and 5-closest friends. I guess that list and those items are probably common.

If you are jumping back into the dating scene and the whole idea of dating again sounds stressful because maybe it has been a long time and you are not even sure you want to go there, realize you really I don’t have a choice.

You are not alone in being leery about Online Dating, or uncertain about getting back out there again. Being single is a double-edged sword, total freedom, but at times you can tell something is missing. If all that sounds familiar, start making your list, you don’t have to publish it in an online dating profile, but keep it handy, too many red flags and you need to bug out, and think. Please consider all this.